Monday, December 3, 2012

Day 337: Help college student with math

I know what some of you are thinking. Help someone with math? Danielle? haha.

I sort of did. I went and picked up the college student I have been mentoring periodically. He needed help with putting together his final essays and work on some math. I took one look at the math problems....mind.blown. I had to post on my facebook page to see out the help from many of my math guru friends! But we got it squared away.

He got his essays figured out (I put together questions for him and then laid out how an essay should look like)

When I dropped him off, he asked if he could give me a hug and thanked me for my help. Sometimes all someone needs is someone to have another persons back. A cheerleader saying you can do it.

(I think my blog is caught up! Hath no fear, acts of kindness occur daily! It can be a bit of a struggle getting this posted because Madi,my adorable cute little daughter likes to stay up during the time I usually posted this. :))

Day 335: A friend is sick - here I come!

My friend Paul shared that he wasn't feeling well. He had went into work and came home from a head cold that's been going around.

I brought him a bag with ramen noodle soup, candy (because seriously, it chocolate makes a cold go away - you heard it from me first!) and emergen-c (this stuff is awesome).

Paul, hope you feel better bud!!!

Day 334: Two boys that follow this blog - become recipients

Towards the beginning of the year, I had a friend post on my facebook telling me that her sons follow this act of kindness blog. It made me realize the magnitude of doing the acts of kindness and that even young people would follow. It inspired me. Motivated me.

Little did they know that they would become recipients of this new years resolution towards the end of the year!

I put together a box of goodies with a remote controlled helicopter. The note said "Dream Big, Aim high"

They should get it on Monday, Dec 3rd!!!

Day 333: Start a cause

My idea was generated from seeing D's tiara yesterday morning. I started wearing it. I instantly felt empowered, worthy and strong. I'd like to start sending tiaras (and a note) to women experiencing heartache and obstacles. Starting off with those I know experiencing something or just needs a pick me up or just to let them know I care. I'd then like to build a website to inspire and motivate women to wear their tiaras with self talk - understand and believe in their worth, letting them know they are not alone.

As a result, I hope to start an organization that facilitates opportunities for speakers and motivational perspectives to enlighten and open women up to their ultimate goals and desires.

This would help:
-single mothers
-women experiencing divorce
-domestic violence
-mid-life crisis's
-teen girls (bullied, building confidence, etc)
- all women and girls that need a lift up :)

Basically, a cause showing that other women are fighting for other women.

I posted this on my facebook. There's now over 50 people involved and behind this cause. I will post a picture of the logo but I think the final name for this will be "Tiara's with love"!!!!

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Day 332: Contribute towards a friends documentary

I saw that a friend needed stories about online dating for his documentary that he was working on. I sent him a note offering to contribute! After going back and forth, I was able to share my story from using, dating the person and the end result of my experience with online dating.

While, obviously, this last situation online dating didn't end well, I would recommend it for anyone out there. There's plenty of people to meet and online dating just expands your options <3

You'll see me on there again when the time is right. :)

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Day 331: Sympathies to a friend

One of my high school classmates father passed away suddenly. I sent a note to her passing on my condolences but to also let me know if she needed anything.

In response, she sent me the below message. This is just proof that any act, big or small, has a significant impact

Monday, November 26, 2012

Day 330: Spend time and get creative with my daughter

Today I spent time with my daughter making headbands! My friend, Becky, had given her this headband making gift set. I kept telling D that her and I would sit down and do it. It's a bit challenging (as I have expressed in other posts) trying to find the time when your newborn demands alot of attention and care!

But we did and I could tell D felt uber special. I made a green headband with hot pink feathers on it and a green rhinestone. D made several headbands too. She was so cute sporting her headbands and modeling them as if she was walking down a runway.

This photo below spoke to me as I am sure it will you too

Day 329: Let another woman know she's incredible

Awhile back I had a friends mom add me on facebook. I noticed her posts and incredible perseverance. She had a liver transplant in her 30's and got a second chance at life.

What I found impressive was that she really "got it". She was really living her life and contributing back in this word. I attended a little party she had today and told her just that. It's nice to affirm and take notice of someone that really recognizes that it's not just living daily that counts - it's what we're doing during those seconds in the days that do!

Melanie, thanks for being YOU!

Day 328: Reconnect and support a friend

I noticed in my news feed a guy friend of mine that was experiencing something similar to my situation. I reached out to him and let him know I was praying for peace and closure so he can continue to move forward.

He and I have talked non-stop since we connected. It's been great to give him support and know how much it's meant to him.

Day 327: Visit a nursing home for Thanksgiving

Since my eldest daughter was headed to thanksgiving dinner with her dad, it was just Madi and I to take on the world. I decided to go to a nursing home (at first we wanted to serve thanksgiving dinner through the salvation army, but they already were at capacity for volunteers! great problem to have)

So, I posted on facebook asking if anyone would like to join. Karlys, Tammy and Kristin jumped on it.

We went to the Charter House (retirement home and for assisted living). It was an absolute joy to visit today. This will be a yearly tradition for my girls and I, and any friends that would like to join.

While we visited, a man gave us $20 to buy more flowers to hand out. He said "Thanks for what you're doing, I want you to use this to keep doing the beautiful thing you're doing". We obliged. We go more flowers and handed out even more hugs.

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Day 326: Put a cart away for a stranger

It's the night before thanksgiving! My friend Karlys watched my daughter for me so I could run some errands and get a break in. Being a 24/7 single parent - you're always on - no breaks! Unless your child is sleeping and in which case most of the time they're on your shoulder or lap! She's worth it. :)

So, I ran to target to pick up milk. As I was leaving, I ran my cart to the cart corrall. I noticed another woman starting to bring hers over. I went over to her and said if take it! She looked happy to oblige and get back in her car. :)

Day 325: Channel one food drive

My daughters school did a food drive today for channel one. She was SO excited to bring donations to school.
She has learned so much in the last year about acts of kindness and realizes the impact and magnitude of doing them!

We put some can goods in her pack back. As I watched her walk into her school, I felt so much pride knowing that she gets it. She really does <3

Monday, November 19, 2012

Day 324: Help Matt Pohler

Please consider helping this young man <3 I had seen a friend of my sisters post about this on my sisters wall on Facebook. He's so young. Has so much more life to live.

Here's his story:

"On November 13th, Matt Pohler's life was turned upside down. He was tentatively diagnosed with ALL - Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia and flown to MD Anderson. The latest info we have, is that his kidneys are in bad shape because of the extremely high white blood cell count. The numbers were brought down overnight, but doctors expect that to be temporary until aggressive chemo is administered. With his family at his side, Matt's been told that he will be in the hospital for the next week to 10 days, and after that he will need to be 20 min from hospital for about a month during the chemo treatments due to immediate need for blood transfusions and the fragility of his immune system."

Any help is welcomed - big or small! They're close to the amount set!

Day 323: Brunch for friend

My friend Tara came over for brunch. I love her. Her laughter is infectious, one if those loud abrupt laughs that makes you grin as soon as you hear it!

I made Reese's peanut butter cup pancakes (was going to make monster pancakes but apparently ate all the m & m's :-o) scrambled deluxe eggs and turkey bacon. It was pretty much awesome. :) Tara loved it :)

Friday, November 16, 2012

Day 322: Formula coupons mailed to a friend

Ok. I'm caught up on posting these entries! I tell ya, with a 5 week old, it's challenging finding the time to even post a simple blog entry! I still make sure I get my acts of kindness in <3

Today I mailed formula coupons to a friend that had expressed a need for them. Formula is expensive! I've been exclusively breastfeeding Madison, so I don't have a need for the coupons I get in the mail from Similac and Enfamil. Another friend of mine sent over her coupons too, and I mailed about $50 worth of coupons to my friend that needed them. :) free money! Who's excited! :)

Day 321: In memory of my niece

Eleven years ago, I received a phone call that woke me up from my sleep. I knew instantly something was wrong. I just had a feeling.

It was my sister on the other line.

My niece, her first born daughter Adelynn was born still.

I couldn't get down there fast enough.

I got to hold her. She was perfect. Too beautiful for this world.

In memory of Adelynn, I pledged to donate money to Faiths lodge (again). This retreat provides sanctuary to parents that have children leave this earth before them. <3

Also visited some friends that had a premie (she's 7 lbs now! Was 3lbs ) dropped off newborn diapers I no longer needed and some sleepers that were brand new that Madison never got to wear since she's growing like crazy!

Day 320: Icecream for dinner

Tonight I had to take my daughter to get her hair cut. She's in a wedding this weekend as a flower girl. A very special wedding at that. My little family of three has been "adopted" into this family. It will be a joy to watch my daughter walk down the aisle in her beautiful dress. She's been made to feel like a princess <3

For fun, I took her to get Icecream for dinner. You can't beat that "meal" for dinner!! She loved it!

Day 319: Warm cookies for support group

Yep. I started attending a single parent support group. It's been such a great resource, outlet and support. I am able to bring my daughters with, Madi stays with me (so I can nurse her as needed) and D gets to play with other kids.

I brought warm chocolate chip cookies to the group tonight. <3 I am so appreciative of them and want to be sure I show them in the way of an act of kindness. <3

Day 318: Message a friend

I had a friend from high school share that he needed prayers.

I sent him a note tonight to let him know I continue to keep him in my prayers.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Day 317: Comfy socks for my friend

It goes without saying, I have be best of friends a girl could ask for.

My friend Tara came over to give me a much needed single momma reprieve :)

I know she would never expect anything in return for watching Madi while I go take a breather, but I got her some comfy socks. She had been at my house before and asked to borrow some while she was here and she loved them! So I figured she probably didn't have any.

She loved them! They have frogs on them and super soft.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Day 316: Pay the 45 cents owed on postage

Someone had mailed my roommate a card and forgot to put the 45 cent postage on it. I saw the envelope from the mailman and threw the money owed in the envelope :)

Day 315: Contribute towards a gift card

I joined a single parenting group last week. It's been so nice to connect with other people that have had similar experiences and understand.

Today I attended a thanksgiving dinner with the group. It was partially a going away for one of them that's moving. Everyone chipped in and got a gift card.

It's interesting how life takes different paths, places completely different people in your life at just the right moments. :)

Friday, November 9, 2012

Day 314: How can I help?

Oh, what a day. In the midst of dealing with some negativity, I had kindness bestowed on my family. It's true when they say that things happen right when you need them, and they did! I received an email from my sister and friend Megan. A bunch of my friends pooled together and got Madi a gift card for diapers (very much needed!) a giftcard to a store for Destiny and I. I couldn't even see my phone screen from the tears blurring the display. Thank YOU all for making my girls and I a random act of kindness!

Tonight as I was sending out quick Facebook messages of thanks, I noticed a status from a friend feeling discouraged and defeated. I sent her a message directly asking how I could help.

It seems no one is exempted from obstacles or challenges, huh? <3

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Day 313: Send an e-card

In my facebook newsfeed, a friend had a status about a challenging situation she was dealing with.

I sent her an ecard to let her know I was thinking of her ( inspired by Ryan's kind act towards me!)

Ecards are a quick easy way to let someone know you care!

Day 312: Surprise! I just bought your order

I was in a hurry. I went through McD's drive thru, Madi was on the verge of the "waking up she'd want to nurse stat" meltdown. I knew it was a ticking baby time bomb in the back seat. :)

As I finished ordering, I pulled forward at the same time as the guy next to me. He waved kindly to let me go before him.

I decided that kindness should not go unappreciated and returned the favor. I bought his order :)

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Day 311: Rocked my vote

I'm proud to be an American and even prouder to have the freedom to vote. Little miss went with me to the polls. I bet she was one of the youngest at the polls :)

When I arrived, I checked to see if I was registered and I wasn't. I went to the register line. While I was filling out my form, there were other people in line waiting. I noticed that the people behind the table were too busy verifying/registering voters that they didn't see the effectiveness with passing out the form so others could e ready by the time they needed to be verified. I decided to hand out the forms :-p

We all know who won at this point. My only comment is, work on that deficit so our future is bright for generations like my daughters and their children.


Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Day 310: Research my vote

Today I've been researching my vote. I pulled up my sample ballot ahead of time so I'm fully informed and prepared to vote for who I feel are the best leaders for my county, state and country.

It's important to vote, but to also e informed. <3

Day 309: Support a friend in their relationship

It's interesting, every relationship has it challenges. It takes work, consistency and steadfast dedicated love. I'm discovering that the ones that last just plain don't give up. :)

I have a friend who's own relationship is having its particular obstacles. He's posted statuses that are truly raw, very real and no ones exempted from their own similar experiences.

I've been responding. I'm rooting you two on. Life is too short, especially when you know you've got the right person by your side. Keep fighting for it!

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Day 308: A gift for a little girl behind me in line

I got another mommy break! Thank you Karlys :) I ran some quick errands, one of those was a stop at Target to return some things and pick up the new Tinkerbell movie for my daughter to surprise her.

As I was checking out, there was a mom and her daughter in line behind me. Their stuff almost accidentally got merged with mine as the cashier was running my items through. I spoke up and said "Oh no, that's their stuff...(and then I noticed a little Barbie toy) except for the Barbie toy. Put that on mine"

The mom spoke up and said "Oh, that's ours"

I said "I know. I do an act of kindness every day. I wanted to get that for your daughter" <3

She was so surprised, said "thank you" and I told her, "I have a daughter close to your daughters age. She loves those barbies, have a great night"

Friday, November 2, 2012

Day 307: Help another mom with spilled milk

After I picked D up from school, we went grocery shopping. Of course, little M was in tow too. :) It never fails, when we go somewhere in Rochester, I either know someone or D does.I saw friends. D saw friends. We chatted with them. I love Rochester so much. I'm so happy this is our home. <3

Here's how incredible D is. M slept the entire time while we grocery shopped - except righttttt when we got to the check out lane. Of course that's when she'd wake up! Lol. As I was trying to unload the grocery cart and not be "one of those parents that has a baby crying", D quietly goes over to her sister and puts her pacifier in M's mouth. I looked over at my daughters and felt so much awe.

As we were about to leave I looked at D and knew I needed to do something special for. I asked her if she wanted to eat out, and we did. As we were at our table we noticed a mom trying to wrangle in her two daughters. One of the daughters was very exuberant...she ended up knocking over her drink and it went all over. I could tell the mom was stressed. We handed her some napkins quick and I smiled at her, knowing all to well what she was feeling.

We leave and arrive home. I knew M's diaper needed to be changed. I laid M on the changing pad, and D sat next to her while I unloaded the groceries from the car. By the time I got to them, D had already changed M's diaper - perfectly.

I now know why God sent me D years before I would have M. I'm pretty sure God knew I'd need D now. That she'd be the hope, love and spirit I would need in her tiny little self. I'm so thankful for her.

We showed a bit of kindness to another mom, and my daughter showed me kindness too.

Life is good <3

Day 306: Posts daily statuses of thanks on my Facebook

November kicks of Thanksgiving - in turn, I decided to join the status posts of posting daily what I'm thankful for.

No matter whats going on in my life, I have so much to be thankful for. Doing this daily will be a reminder of all my blessings. :)

Day 305: Drop off warm cookies to my daughters school

I dropped off warm peanut butter cup cookies at my daughter school for the volunteers that take care of the kids after school.

They loved them! And especially because they were warm <3

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Day 304: Donated to Redcross for Hurricane Sandy recovery

Text REDCROSS to 90999 to donate $10

HOW TO HELP “This will be a large, costly relief response and we need help now,” Shimanski said. “People can help by making a donation to support American Red Cross Disaster Relief online, by text or by phone.”

Donations help the Red Cross provide shelter, food, emotional support and other assistance to those affected by disasters like Hurricane Sandy. To donate, people can visit, call 1-800-RED-CROSS, or text the word REDCROSS to 90999 to make a $10 donation. Contributions may also be sent to someone’s local Red Cross chapter or to the American Red Cross, P.O. Box 37243, Washington, DC 20013.

PLEASE GIVE BLOOD The storm has already caused the cancellation of Red Cross blood drives in the region, and more cancellations are expected. This has resulted in the loss of several hundred units of blood and platelets so far. The Red Cross has shipped blood products to hospitals in the affected area in advance of the storm as patients will still need blood and platelets despite the weather. If anyone is eligible, especially in places not affected by the storm, they are asked to please schedule a blood donation now.

Day 303: Donated MORE stuff

I can't relieve what I continue to be able to purge from my house. I placed a huge box in the kitchen and as I moved baby stuff in, I moved other stuff out to make room. As a result, I ended up purging more things and also streamlined some of the baby stuff I had.

Thanks to Alissa and John for the heavy-lifting and for transporting it for me!

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Day 302: Sending safe east coast vibes

Hurricane Sandy is set to hit the east coast causing residual flooding, rain and damage.

Thinking of and sending "stay safe" vibes and prayers to all my friends and those I don't know on the east coast.

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Day 301: Write out thank yous

And so it begins, the count down to the end of the year...towards the end of this years New Years resolution. 66 acts of kindness left....

I thought it fitting that for today's act, I take a moment (actually many moments!) to write out thank yous to every single person that has bestowed their love to my girls and I.

I know I've SAID it over and over "thank you", but I know it means alot getting a note in the mail showing that appreciation.

I'm a little delayed on some but they're coming :)

I wish all you readers of this blog well! It's been an interesting year and as it comes to a close, I continue to reflect on what this New Years resolution has taught me, how it's impacted my life and my girls and where I plan to continue my journey with it in the future.

The image below is just one stack of cards we received. There's tons more. I can't get over how incredibly thoughtful and selfless people truly are.

Day 300: Support Rochester schools

We attended the Haunted Hallways. My daughter was SO excited. She loves holidays, and thinks Halloween is so much fun.

Haunted Hallways supports the Rochester schools. 100% of to proceeds go to the schools!

It's still happening! Stop by today and tonight! :)

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Day 299: Pass a book on

So, my friend Jaymi came over to give me a break on the mom front :) It was nice running errands tonight..but I must say - I had to really force myself to stay away and not come home. :-o I was gone 45 minutes and already wondering how Madi was doing, if she needed to be nursed, if she was crying and inconsolable....

I had absolutely nothing to worry about. When I walked in the door (I was able to stay away for an hour and a half) Jaymi had her in her arms and she was still zonked out! Madi is such a chill easy baby! :)

On her way out, Jaymi pointed out a book of mine she had been reading. She brought up that she had a friend going through a divorce. I asked her to pass on the book to her friend with a note I wrote to her in the book.

The book was given to me by one of my girlfriends. Girlfriends gotta stick together. <3

Thank you Jaymi for the much needed
break! I feel rejuvenated and ready to so this mom thing again :)

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Day 298: Prayers for Payton Riley

Her name has been popping up in my Facebook newsfeed.

She's 19 years old. A daughter. A sister. A friend. A Minnesota girl <3

From the post-bulletin

"GOODHUE — Six people were injured in a two-vehicle crash west of Goodhue late Saturday morning."

Awful. Tragic. Heart wrenching.

Prayers go out to her family and friends as she continues to fight to recover. Payton, you're surrounded by prayers and love!

Prayers for all others involved in the accident. For speedy healing recovery, and peace.

Please hold them all in your prayers and thoughts too <3

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Day 297: Support a local school attending a book fair

Today my daughter and I stopped by a book fair. I was excited to do this with her because one of my favorite things to do is to read to her at night. It's that special moment where it's just you and your child spending some really good quality time together. I absolutely love it.

She picked out a few books.

As the act of kindness for the day, we put the left over money in the donation box so students at that school can get books too :)

Monday, October 22, 2012

Day 296: Accept each other

Today as I was browsing Facebook a status from a friend popped up in my feed. I always read her statuses because she has some compelling stories to share.

This status wasn't just a story of another person/people that she had a tendency to talk about. It was about her and she decided to "come out" in it.

I was surprised but incredibly delighted that she felt in today's society it would be more a accepting....and that she felt safe enough to share.

I let her know it didn't change my opinion or her. In fact, I had a whole new respect and admiration for her.

Be who you are and don't ever doubt or apologize for it. Always <3

Day 295: Appreciate the outdoors

What an absolutely gorgeous day it was. I had been feeling stir crazy from being pent up in the house with Madi, I could tell we both needed some fresh air and sun on our faces!

We got outside, said hello to our neighbors and walked around our neighborhood. It was a day to be out and about outside!

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Day 294: You got mail

I've been receiving messages from some who have had similar experiences that I have had (father of my child walking out on us at 37 weeks pregnant). While its not fun to talk about, it's the reality of what happened and something that's apart of my life's journey now.

I'm determined to turn it into something positive.

I'm also glad I've been open about it. Because the notes I'm receiving from other women who can relate ...and looking for hope, inspiration and support is astounding. I can't look away.

In particular, I opened my Facebook the other day to a message from a single mother who wanted to let me know that for the longest time she's felt alone in her own journey - until now. She realized after following what was happening to me that SHE was going to be ok too. Which is true :)

I shared with her that I've been reading this book called the "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz, recommended to me by a friend. It's been truly a transcending of deeper understanding of life, relationships, love, etc. as I've read the book. She shared that she's be interested in reading it too :)

I ordered it today for her. She should receive it next week!


For those that have experienced the heartache of someone leaving, or hurting you, etc. - there IS hope going forward - you ARE worthy of love and for the person that walked out on you and your family - they were NEVER worthy of you to begin with.

((Hugs)) and love. If you ever feel alone, send me an email. You're not alone.

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Day 293: Lip gloss for a cause

1. I love make up
2. I love great causes

Put them together and what do you get?

Join Mary Kay and change the lives of women and children worldwide. In the United States, from Sept. 16, 2012, through Dec. 15, 2012, $1 will be donated to The Mary Kay FoundationSM from each sale of limited-edition† Beauty That Counts® Mary Kay® NouriShine Plus® Lip Gloss in “Inspiring” and “Possibilities.”

"Mary Kay Ash emphasized the importance of giving back. That’s why we are committed to changing the lives of women and children around the world. Like giving orphaned children a reason to smile, victims of domestic violence a chance to heal and cancer sufferers hope for tomorrow. You can help others through your purchase of limited-edition† Beauty That Counts® Mary Kay® NouriShine Plus® Lip Gloss. Loaded with benefits, this lightweight gloss delivers ultimate shine."

Sold! :) Bought some

Friday, October 19, 2012

Day 292: Pledge towards a Jog-a-thon for student

My high school classmate posted a status about her daughter Olivia doing a jog-a-thon and accepting pledges towards it. All proceeds go to her daughters school.

I pledged $10. Jog on, Olivia!

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Day 291: Rooting a friend on

A year ago I encountered a status on Facebook that was a cry for help. I didn't know this person very well. I have many different people on my Facebook from going comedy, or events, etc.

Many thought it was a joke - I erred on the side of caution and took it seriously. I started asking who knew the person well, and urged support in getting help that was very much needed.

I wanted this person to know that they mattered.

Late that morning, there was a status posted stating that help was being pursued.

A year later (yesterday) I saw in my newsfeed engagement photos.


I sent this person a note tonight congratulating them on their engagement and to also let this person know that I continue to follow their journey, and I'm rooting them on.

Amazing how complete strangers can become friends, just by showing another human being that they matter.

Day 290: RSVP on time

I received two invitations today - one for a wedding and one for a baby shower. I RSVP'd right away. I know how it goes planning both - sometimes it's a matter of tracking people down just to see if they're coming or not.

Rsvping immediately gives them one less person to worry about! :)

Looking forward to both events filled with pretty incredible people.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Day 289: Offer some assistance (and receive it too)

Today I went to Target for the first time with Madi. I was nervous because I was winging this on my own. Would she sleep? Would she wail and cry the entire time? Would I need to frantically locate a spot to nurse her?!??!!

Would I be able to remember to pick up everything we need?!?

She slept the entire time. :-p AND I picked up everything we needed.

As I went to go check out and feeling victorious over our first grocery shopping trip together - I ran into one of my friends in the same check out line. She gave me a huge hug and then instantly went to work helping me empty my cart onto the register counter. After I paid, she helped me put all the bags in my cart and then proceeded to push the cart to my vehicle. It's as if God placed her in my path.

It seems he's placed alot of people in my path the last four weeks <3

As we were walking out, there was an older woman that was getting out of those handicap motor carts. I could tell she was abit unsteady - I asked her of she needed assistance. She smiled at me and said "No, just getting all the kinks out and then I'll be waking ok"

Day 288: Quality time with my daughter

Yesterday (Saturday) as I was nursing Madi, D (my eldest daughter) started crying. I looked at her in surprise and asked her what was wrong. She said "Mommy, you're spending all this time with Madi (nursing) and not spending anytime with me"

I was not prepared for that response. Of course she feels this way, I'm constantly nursing Madi.

I looked at her little sweet face and said "How about we decorate that gingerbread haunted house?"

That's all she needed <3

The kindest act I can do is to do everything I can to make sure my daughters know they are loved so much <3

Day 287: Start Madison's baby book

One of my other acts of kindness at the beginning of the year was to keep my eldest daughter D's baby book up to date. It's important for me to have them filled out for my daughters (my mother never finished ours) As soon as a tooth comes in - I have that baby book out. Every little fun detail must be documented! :)

I started Madi's baby book. Wrote out her birth story (her birth had to have been the most perfect labor/delivery ever), filled in Mommy's thoughts. :)

One day, each of my girls will open their baby books, and I hope they'll appreciate the memories I've left begin <3

Friday, October 12, 2012

Day 285: Picked my daughter up early to spend quality time with her

Today we had parent/teacher conferences for my daughter, D. She's not digging school much (I was the same way (sigh) but she puts up with it . :-p

After conferences, I wanted to see her. She was in the gymnasium playing when I walked in with her little sister. As soon as she saw us, she sprinted over. Then all of a sudden we were surrounded by other kids wanting to take a peek at her little sister. They all exclaimed at how beautiful M is. I couldn't agree more and said "She looks just like her big sister." :)

I looked at D and asked if she wanted to go home early. Usually shes one of the last to go home since I tend to work later. Man that kid couldn't get her back pack and jacket fast enough :) I plan on picking her up early every day I have her while I'm on maternity leave to maximize my time with her. It's important to make this time just as special for her too.

I love my girls so much. <3

Day 286: Honor the life of Jen Burgess Thompson

I didn't know Jen personally. I knew about her from some other Facebook friends. What I gathered from her friends and her blog was the grace and dignity she portrayed as she fought a fearless battle with cancer. I admired the way she told her story and watched as many surrounded her with love, support and prayers.

Cancer took her. :-(

She leaves behind two boys.

A reminder that we really don't know when our time will come....capture memories and moments now - and in Jen's case, through photography, forever impressing it on our hearts.

You mattered Jen <3

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Day 284: Like a Facebook page, $1 gets donated to Relay for life

In Rochester, I have an "adopted" family. The Koens family.

Kendall is a 6 year cancer free survivor. He has a fundraising campaign commencing right now that with every like to his professional Facebook page, he'll donate $1 to Relay for Life.

Cool. :)

Day 283: Stick with Breastfeeding

Oh my my. I forgot what it felt like starting off with Breastfeeding. The first week or so is killer and there are many times you just want to quit!

We're on day 3 and its a nail biter, toes curling, ouch ouch ouch episodes! But oh so worth it. I'm an advocate for whatever works for a momma and her baby (Breastfeeding and/or Formula) Breastfeeding has its own benefits. After each feeding, it makes me feel joy that she's receiving immunities needed in the coming months, saves money and bonding with her is magical. <3

Below is my daughters first nursing right after she was born. A lot of people shy away or think Breastfeeding should be hidden. I disagree. It's a beautiful, natural way to sustain life. Truly a miracle what a woman's body can do.

Day 282: Thank my nurse

While I was in the hospital, I had an exceptional nurse named Fae. Her name lived up to the care she gave. She was gentle. She was kind. I had intended to bring a gift with me to give but forgot it - so I'll be circling back to her to show my appreciation to her.

Helping me with Madi's first bath

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Day 281: A blessing

A few weeks ago when I suddenly found out I would be swinging parenthood on my own, my pastor friend (met her on twitter! How cool is that?) Emily Carson sent me a message and offered to do a blessing for Madison while in the hospital.

What better way to kick off my daughters life then to have a blessing ceremony for her.

I invited several of my friends to be there. Pastor Emily arrived. Fully prepared with a script/blessing. She brought beads along. As we put a bead inside a glass container we each thought of a blessing and placed the bead inside the container.

It was absolutely beautiful. I feel as though Madison is surrounded and protected. Thank you Pastor Emily for blessing my little girl and helping to give her the best start possible!

Day 280: A tiny kindness warrior is born

I'm catching up on my acts of kindness....for good reason. My sweet little daughter decided to arrive at 7:30 am on October 6th. Hallelujah! I was ready. :)

She arrived with my closest friends surrounding her and I in the delivery room. I couldn't have asked for a better labor and delivery after everything her and I have experienced the past few weeks.

My promise to her is that she will be raised with the awareness and selflessness that I'm trying to learn, grow in and advocate for myself and others. My hope for her is that she'll live a blessed life and a deep understanding of what it means to love and be loved. That family isn't defined by what society tells us, but by those that stick around to be there through the good and the bad. I'll be by her side through it all.

I am so glad you are my daughter, Madison Jean. You are loved by so many, especially your big sister and I.

Friday, October 5, 2012

Day 279: Visit a coworker and her new baby

For the past several weeks, a co-worker on another team and I have been checking in with each other due to our pregnancies. She was due October 10th. I'm due tomorrow, October 6th.

A couple of days ago, we went for a brisk walk. I have enjoyed our discussions, she's made me feel more comfortable about the idea of having a newborn again.

Yesterday, I noticed she was gone and wasn't in the office. Today, as I suspected, I found out that she had her baby! And she had a little girl. <3

I got a card and went to one of the stores in the subway level and got her these CUTE little pink sock booties. Because every little girl needs some lovely "shoes" lying around.

It was neat to visit them in the hospital. I know my time will be soon. As I held her daughter, all my fears and apprehension of caring/raising my own daughter by myself quickly washed away. It was as if God meant for me to be there and meant for me to see that I am completely capable and ready.

Madison, mommy is ready for you. <3

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Day 278: Be a happiness activist

I already feel I do this, but can always do better :) A very cool, worthwhile site. You can get ideas on how to advocate happiness and do acts of kindness. :) I'll be  a frequent visitor to it now!

"Being a Happiness Activist involves choosing to live in a way that promotes happiness, not just for ourselves but for the people we love and the people we meet. It means approaching life in a positive, loving and collaborative way - being a force for good rather than a voice of cynicism, criticism or selfishness.

As Happiness Activists we can use the 10 Keys to Happier Living to encourage positive living in all parts of our lives: at home, at our child's school, at work, in our local community and beyond.
Being a Happiness Activist also means caring deeply about alleviating pain and suffering in the world around us and taking positive action to help reduce unhappiness. This could mean helping people struggling with anxiety and depression, working to rebuild broken relationships, making people feel valued at work or reaching out to friends and neighbours in need."

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Day 277: Order Christmas Wreath [Boy Scouts of America]

Sometimes I've planned out the acts of kindness I do, sometimes I have no idea what I'll do and then opportunity knocks. Literally :)

Today, I've been waiting for little miss Madison to make her arrival. [TMI - lost my mucous plug this morning so she could come anytime now!] My wonderful neighbors offered to take my eldest daughter for a bit tonight so I could work on some things at the house. I cleaned, vacuumed, climbed the stairs to try to induce labor - nada!

While I was cleaning I heard a knock on the front door. Opened it up and two cute little twin boys in Boy Scout uniforms selling their yearly fundraiser of Christmas wreaths. My daughters father is an Eagle Scout and I've always admired their service project efforts.

So, of course, I ordered a wreath. Who can tell kids no! I'm a sucker! :)

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Day 276: Some Taco Bell for me...and YOU

What better way to induce labor then to get down with some Taco Bell! Mmmmm. Lol. Hasn't worked yet :-p all I have is heartburn now...haha

The man behind me didn't know it but he was about to partake of some free Taco Bell. I took care of his bill too!

The cashier got excited when I told her I would take care of the person behind me bill. She shared that she does this too at the college she attends for students that don't have enough money at the register. How cool is that?

I love RAK!

Monday, October 1, 2012

Day 275: Massive surprise for another single mom

Most mornings I go to this lovely spot in Rochester that makes the BEST breakfast sandwiches. I met this girl there that was due around the same time as I. She was having a boy, I'm having a girl.

She and I related on several levels - but especially being single mothers of our unborn babies. For myself, unexpectedly.

A couple of weeks ago, where I needed a hug, she was in my path and gave one to me. I had NO idea she was experiencing something similar, yet different.

Last week, I decided I wanted to do something special for her. I had received SO much love from my own community, I wanted to pay it forward. I wanted her to see that complete strangers cared. I wanted her to see how much that one hug meant to me.

So, I posted on Facebook asking if anyone would be interested in contributing towards a basket of baby boy stuff for her.

Then I got a super huge idea in my head. A friend who knew her and knew what I was doing texted me her full name and where she was registered.

I looked on her registry and saw she still needed the carseat (critical :) and stroller (fun touch!)

So I posted another status with the link to the carseat and stroller and asked if anyone would be willing to contribute towards that.

I had the money for that carseat/stroller in less then 30 minutes. I have the most amazing 'move mountains' group of friends.

Several also contributed clothes, money for the card, toys, blankets, etc.

I ordered the carseat/stroller last Thursday.

My friend LaVonne (she's such a kindred spirit) and I practically skipped to go give our new friend the surprises this morning from all of us.

Our new friend came around the counter when we told her we had some things for her. Her face was flushed with surprise and her hands shook a little bit. She looked at awe at the both of us. As she opened the card, I told her "My New Years resolution was to do an random act of kindness each day. You're our random act if kindness. My friends and I wanted to join together and do this for you."

She opened the card and saw the picture of the carseat/stroller. :) Now. The funny twist of this story is that her coworkers had bought the carseat/stroller too and had JUST given it to her this morning too! However, one can be returned and the rest of the items left on her registry can be bought. :)

She kept saying thank you over and over. I knew she would. I knew how she felt. For I've been the recipient of such kindness myself.

Moral of the story? Two carseats and strollers means you're super loved. Complete group of strangers doing an act of kindness = restores faith in humanity and touches another's heart. <3

Nice work, friends. <3

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Day 274: Clean the garage, donate more

What an absolutely gorgeous day for the last day of September. My friend, Tim, had asked me if I needed help with anything (the last couple of weeks, I've finally held my hand up to say - yes, I can use the help and accepted it. From one super fierce "I can do it myself woman", this has been a huge lesson for myself. I'm so use to expecting other people to accept help from me when I offer it, that I'm finally realizing we're so ingrained to not ask for it or if we do, it's a sign of weakness, etc. WRONG. It's a sign of strength and determination.)

So, Tim came over and we did some serious cleaning to that garage! Thank you Tim for all your help (and for the brownies :)) I can park inside there during winter, now, and bring little miss right inside and out from the direct cold.

As a result of cleaning the garage, we created quite the pile for donations. I took books, shoes (I cannot believe how many shoes I have donated this year) and a bunch of other things to Savers (which supports epilepsy foundation).

(Also, I am reading the book The Four Agreements by Don Muigel Ruiz recommended to me by my friend, Danielle. It's an ABSOLUTE must read for everyone out there.)

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Day 273: Attend and support Rachael Schlingmanns benefit

You can read Sharon and Rachael's story in the link above.

Today I attended the benefit at the Wicked Moose, all proceeds go to defray funeral costs and to further education on drug addiction.

Sharon, thank you for continuing to share your story. You have and will touch the lives of many. <3

Friday, September 28, 2012

Day 272: Gather, collect surprises for a single mother

Yesterday I posted on Facebook about a single mother I knew that I wanted to surprise her with some gifts. I thought by asking my friends, we could all do something really significant for her.

And that we did :-o I won't spoil the big surprise (it will be unveiled Monday) but today I ordered it, picked up gifts people contributed, friends dropped off some things....

A massive thank you to the generous hearts that wanted to join in on a random act of kindness. :)

We're going to completely blow her away when we see her Monday toting these surprises. :) Can't wait! Be sure to check in on Monday to hear all about it!!!!

Omgosh I'm so excited!! I know my friends are too!!!

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Day 271: Donate and support Erin Pendergast

Have you heard of Erin? If not, you should know about her after this blog post. :)

Here's Erin's story:

"In May 2012, Erin Pendergast was diagnosed with a grade IV cancerous brain tumor. Erin is also pregnant with her second child (she was about 24 weeks at the time of diagnosis). After weighing her options and carefully considering her unborn baby boy and the rest of her family–three-year-old Ethan and loving husband Ryan—Erin decided to fight by having brain cancer surgery in late May, followed by radiation treatments to her brain post-surgery and a course of oral chemotherapy pills. Her baby was born (at 34 weeks) in mid-August, and she will begin further radiation and chemotherapy treatments this fall.
Erin is an amazing mother, friend, co-worker, daughter, sister, and wife. Before her diagnosis, she was a full-time cardiology nurse at St. Mary’s Hospital. She’s anxious to get back to work but cannot return for an indeterminate amount of time.

Through it all, Erin’s attitude has remained positive, and she is hopeful she will be cancer-free after her treatments. Erin has an upbeat personality that you simply want to be around. That is why her many friends and family members are similarly hopeful that Erin’s treatment will be a success. We have a strong desire to help her in any way possible and have decided to hold a fundraiser to help her family financially so that they can focus on getting Erin back to her normal, fun, wonderful, and—most importantly—healthy self."

Today I purchased my ticket to attend Erin's event. The event is next Thursday, October 4 - 6:00pm-9:00pm at The Loop.

Please consider donating to Erin and her family. ~

Here's the link:

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Day 270: Stopped for a person broke down on the side of the road

Today I took the day off so that I could get the rest of Madison's clothes washed, get the house ready/prepared for her arrival, and run some errands.

As I was running my final errand, I noticed a vehicle on the side of the road. The hood was up. I had jumper cables in my trunk (Renee, I still need to return those to you!)

I pulled up in front of them. Walked out of my car, they couldn't see me, until I came around the hood. As soon as the lady saw me, her eyes widened. Lol. Yes, a 38.5 week pregnant woman just stopped to help you jump your car! Lol

I asked if they needed help. She responded right away and said "My goodness! Thank you. We have triple AAA and Virgil's is on its way! You're pregnant!" I said "Yes I am (pregnant)! Lol. Do you need anything else?"

She thanked me profusely and I went on my way.

It felt great. Reminded me of my focus and why I originally made this a resolution.

Also. Sarah. You were my angel today. Thank you for making me your random act of kindness. <3

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Day 269: Support another woman

Yesterday when I picked up my daughter, there was this other little girl playing with her. They were completely immersed in what they were doing and it was difficult to pry my daughter away. The other little girls mother smiled at me as my daughter finally came to me. Both her daughter and mine didn't want to stop playing together. Her daughter wanted to give my daughter a stick of gum, but her mother reminded her that they had walked down to the park and that she didn't have any on her.

Today, when I went to go pick up my daughter, the mother and my daughters new found friend was there again. I could tell the mother was glad her daughter connected with another little girl. My daughter begged to stay at the park and play with her friend. I agreed.

I looked at the other mom and asked if she'd like to sit down and chat. She eagerly agreed. As we chatted, it instantly became clear to me that this woman was meant to come across my path. She had her own experiences with the father of her child - it was difficult, challenging and I could tell she had her own pain from her experiences.

I listened. I spoke. I supported her. She supported me. We related.

It's truly eye-opening how each person has their own story, how they've become who they are and if we take the time to listen, we get to know some extraordinary people.

As my daughter and I were leaving, her daughter exclaimed that they had brought gum with them today. Of course, my daughter was all over that. :) When her daughter gave my daughter the piece of gum, I reminded my daughter that this was an act of kindness they bestowed on us. My daughter nodded her head and said "I understand, Momma". And I knew she did.

Today was a good day.


Monday, September 24, 2012

Day 268: Donate to United Way through employer

One of my absolute favorite organizations is United Way. I designated my gift to go toward Imagination Library - my daughter absolutely loved getting a new book every month. My favorite thing to Sonia cuddle with her at the end of the day and read to her. Best way to keep ER attention.

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Day 267: Say thanks. Again and again and again.

This week has been one of the most challenging weeks of my life.

I knew I needed more then just myself to rely on at this point. I needed faith in humanity restored.

As a result, I reached out to my Facebook/friends/community.

And to say the support and kindness has been staggering, is truly an understatement.

One after another, a friend, a coworker, a family member, a stranger, etc. has come forward to give me a hug, send me a message, hold my hand, helped me pick up the pieces, let me know I'm not alone and most importantly - has shown me what love really means.

Also, thank you for all my delivery room stand-ins. <3 I can't wait to hold my daughter in my arms.

I've said thank you in the last week about a billion times. And I am not done.

I continue to read and acknowledge every kind word or act bestowed on myself, and for my daughters.

From every being of my soul and heart - thank you to every single person who has sent their support and love. Thank you for loving my girls and I - unconditionally.

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Day 266: Big sister gifts to celebrate her and her little sister

100 days left in this New Years resolution. It's the one resolution that I've ever kept ...but also have grown and learn from.

Today I got gifts for my eldest daughter, when she comes to meet her little sister. I want me eldest to feel apart of this very special moment for all of us.

I got her a little baby that she can learn to swaddle right along momma :) also got her a daughter necklace that she can have as a constant reminder, when she looks down, how incredibly special she is.

Then the most important gift the book, 'Love you forever'.

I leave you tonight with this quote from the book:

"I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living,
My baby you'll be"

My two little girls have taught me the greatest lesson - what love really means.

Have a good night <3

Friday, September 21, 2012

Day 265: Visit a friend who had surgery

My friend, Karlys had surgery this week. I could tell she had hit a point of being stir crazy :-p Laura (best bud from the cities) and I stopped by tonight. :)

I paid forward a kind act bestowed on me, my friend Kiki brought over homemade lasagna, and I brought some of that over for Karlys too. Omgosh the lasagna was yummy!!!

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Day 264: Donate to Redcross disaster relief

I am quite delayed in donating towards the impact of Hurricane Isaacs damage to the gulf. They need the help, especially now in recovery mode. <3

They've made it super easy by text REDCROSS to 90999 and it donates $10 :) pretty cool! Donated!

Thinking of you all down south <3